How often do you say “no” to things that would interfere with your goals?
For much of my life, I found myself saying “yes” far too often. Not because I wanted to, but because I felt obligated to keep the peace, to meet expectations, and, most of all, to please others. I thought that by always being available, always saying yes, I was doing the right thing. But deep down, I was losing myself in the process.
Then, everything changed when I found my true identity in Christ.
When I surrendered to God and allowed Him to reveal who I truly am, I realized that my purpose isn’t to meet the demands of people, it’s to follow the leading of the Holy Spirit. I began to understand that not every opportunity, invitation, or request was meant for me. Just because something is good doesn’t mean it’s God’s assignment for my life.
This revelation didn’t come easily. It took time, prayer, and a lot of learning to be okay with disappointing people. But I knew that saying no to distractions meant saying yes to God’s perfect will.
Now, I make decisions differently. Instead of asking, “Will this make someone happy?” I ask, “Is this aligned with what the Holy Spirit is leading me to do?” That shift has been life-changing. It has brought clarity, peace, and an unshakable focus on what truly matters.
If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, I want to encourage you, your calling is too valuable to be weighed down by unnecessary obligations. Ask God for wisdom, trust His guidance, and have the courage to say no when something interferes with His plan for you. Because when you walk in obedience, you’ll find the greatest fulfillment, the deepest joy, and the unwavering confidence that you are right where God wants you to be.
Stay focused. Stay faithful. And never be afraid to say no.
Returning to Intimacy 