Counting It All Joy: Loving the Unlovable in the Midst of Trials

“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.”
— James 1:2-3 (NKJV)

Life often presents challenges that test the very core of our faith. We encounter people who are difficult to love, those who hurt us, betray us, or seem undeserving of our kindness. Yet, as believers, we are not called to love only those who are easy to love; we are mandated to love the unlovable, just as Christ loved us when we were undeserving.

Joy in the Face of Trials

James reminds us that trials are not merely obstacles; they are opportunities for spiritual growth. He doesn’t say to endure them with gritted teeth, he says to count it all joy. This joy is not rooted in the pain itself but in the understanding that God is using every hardship to refine our faith, produce patience, and shape us into His image.

Loving difficult people is one of the greatest tests of faith. It challenges our natural tendencies and requires us to rely on the Holy Spirit. But within this challenge lies the joy of knowing that we are being conformed to the character of Christ.

The Mandate to Love the Unlovable

Jesus Himself set the ultimate standard for love. In Matthew 5:44, He commands:
“But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you.” This kind of love is radical. It is not based on feelings but on obedience. It is a decision to reflect God’s mercy, even when it is undeserved. After all, God loved us when we were at our worst: “But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)

To love the unlovable is to walk in the footsteps of Jesus. It is to forgive when the world says to hold grudges, to bless when others choose to curse, and to extend grace when judgment seems justified.

The Power of Love in Action

When we choose love over resentment, we break the cycle of bitterness. We reflect God’s heart and open the door for His transformative power to work, not only in those we love but also in ourselves. True joy is found in obedience, in knowing that every act of love is an act of worship to the One who first loved us.

Loving the unlovable is not easy, but it is possible through Christ. As Philippians 4:13 declares, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” When we rely on His strength, we can love even when it feels impossible. And in doing so, we discover the deep, abiding joy that comes from living out His will.

A Prayer for Strength to Love

Father,
Help us to count it all joy when we face trials, knowing You are shaping us through every challenge. Teach us to love as You love, not selectively, but unconditionally. Give us the strength to forgive, the grace to bless, and the heart to reflect Your kindness, even to those who seem unworthy. Let our love be a testimony of Your power at work in us.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Loving the unlovable is not just a suggestion, it is a divine calling. And in that calling, we find joy, knowing that we are fulfilling the very heart of Christ.